Be Mind-LESS: Guidance for Spiritual Breakthroughs

Be Mind-LESS: Guidance for Spiritual Breakthroughs
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Introduction 

What I want to share with you all is a path I’ve discovered to peace. It is about understanding ourselves as spiritual beings and learning to live from that space. To dismantle our prior way of existing through the power of the mind, we must begin to distinguish the difference of the mind from the voice of the soul. We allow ourselves to stand back from the mind so we can acknowledge its instrumental influence on the totality of our lives, up until this point. From this point on—we have the choice of will to open ourselves up to greater possibilities. How I’ve discovered to experience this is by giving our spirit the keys to be the driver. 

I want to normalize our spiritual selves so that we can integrate it into our everyday reality, without the pressures and failings to live up to perfection. It’s not about being this pure, has-it-all-together nonexistent beingThe way I want to depict spirituality is for those everyday people that work so hard, don’t believe they have time for this, yet still find themselves on their knees pleading for change, believing it’s all on them to resolve. Or, for those that seemingly “have it all,” yet still feel something is profoundly missing. For those struggling to validate themselves and looking everywhere but inside to discover their worth. For those of us that have hit a point in the road where we begin to see that the ego can only give us so much, and so—still we seek… 

None of which I have to offer is new information/concepts or strikingly original. But, what I’ve come to realize is, even with all of the information available and readily accessible, there are still questions being asked. So, then let’s keep having the conversation.

The key to peace and learning to live life without conditions of the mind.

In order to become this, we must first learn to love ourselves so much that nothing outside of us affects this. Now, that’s a tall order. Is it, though? The question is how do we actually learn to love ourselves on this level? There are many techniques and practices people use/do to cultivate a greater relationship with their inner selves, and that’s a beautiful thing. Finding what resonates with you to support this journey is paramount. But, what I want to offer is a fundamental foundation of returning to the source of love that gave us life to keep breeding life. Through our devotion to this force of love, we begin to see changes occur. When we understand ourselves as not only a product of this force but synonymous with it, we are united with its stream of abundance. As we lay back onto this stream, peace can restore as we sit in the truth that all is exactly as it should be. When we are in alignment we are reminded that Mother Nature is our mother—we are her creations and we are all bound to the same force.

In order to be one with conditions outside of ourselves and to live a life not dependent on these, we must release attachments to what we THINK will fill up our cup. We fill up our cup by turning to, not against, the force of love that created us and learn to develop an intimate relationship with it. I don’t brush my teeth once a month and expect to maintain dental hygiene. And, how many times do you brush your teeth a day? I want to reiterate this point because my belief is the shift occurs when we prioritize our spiritual health just as frequently as our physical, emotional, and mental health. We must start to integrate a practice to exercise our spiritual muscles—flex and strengthen them—so that we can recognize its voice over all voices of the mind. Some people need a gym to go to in order to hold themselves accountable for a workout, well imagine the same for a spiritual gym. The static noise that comes from a lifetime of self-sabotaging habits is a lot to silence and disarm. It takes time, practice, and discipline. Not only do we have our own voices to contend with, but those have been plagued by other voices—from our families, genetic codes, communities, cultures, so on and so on. Beliefs and scripts that we’ve lived off of for so long dominate our existences. If we are open and willing to walk a spiritual path, then we can hand over the reins and take a break from figuring it all out. But this means we are also willing to surrender the ego’s desires, attachments, beliefs, dreams to the unknown. We learn to float amongst the divine current trusting she will align us with that which is for the highest good.

Through meditation and prayer, we can start to click into a state of consciousness that allows us to see the divine’s source as an infinite supply of unconditional love always available to us. As we continue on with our daily lives and the world evolves around us—the mind wants to grow strong and take over again as we juggle the combat. But, as we seemingly “lose” spiritual strength, we have prior enlightenment that this treasure trove of love is always there to turn to if we lose our way or believe we’ve lost ground. The treasure trove is our amulet of power to thrust us right back into the present moment. The present moment allows us to see that the treasure trove is even available. It gifts us the worldly reality of the otherworldly. All of the illusions and projections of the mind suddenly lose strength, and the voice of the soul awakens us to our being, existing as a presence of love.

The way I’ve come to see it is that the greatest medicine and discipline to maintain this spiritual agility and strength is indeed through meditation and prayer. I want to offer some practical application for those of us (which are most of us) that make self-sabotaging excuses to keep us held back—where we argue from our own limitations. But, when we call in our creator, limitations are irrelevant because we recognize—it doesn’t have to be all on us. 

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Silencing the Noise. (Wild Card pick)

Silencing the Noise. (Wild Card pick)

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Many of us have heard of “The Secret” and the basis for the law of attraction. I’ve never really been sure how I feel about Tony Robbins, but I agree with him when he says that the law of attraction is ‘part of it.’ It’s part of getting what you want in life, but it’s not everything. Obtaining through the law of attraction is more like a symptom of maintaining a high vibration. Clarity and specificity are important, yes. But, I believe what Tony was alluding to in his own way is that there’s more to the upkeep of high vibe than simply thinking happy thoughts.

Self-care, putting ourselves first, being of service, these are all ways to sustain the glow, but vibrations resonating at high frequencies occur effortlessly from silenced noise. This is how we sit into the seat of consciousness.*

We discover our spiritual self and our inner voice—the divine whisper that is our road map from “God.” Through trusting ourselves and in a plan beyond “the self,” we watch the miracle of life unfold with more adventure, more zest. Setting an intention while you are at a high vibration is positive attraction, but it is the art of surrender through objectivity and non-attachment in which we can find peace.

It is the voices, the dialogue in our heads that Michael A. Singer points out so vividly in the first pages of his book, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself,* that interfere with our state of consciousness. They bombard our understanding of the “true self.” He poses questions such as—what is the actual real self? Which one of those voices is the true inner voice?

It doesn’t make any difference what {the voice inside] is saying, you are the one who is aware of it. As long as you think that one thing it’s saying is you, but the other thing it’s saying is not you, you’ve lost your objectivity.” – Michael A. Singer

The objectivity he speaks of, standing back and observing the voices rather than creating them into a hierarchy is how we can begin to develop and move closer to our “intuition.”

When I was in Bali, I felt like I was on this otherworldly ride to understand the necessity of silencing the noise. For one, by simply being away from it, but then to learn to develop self-trust, our relationship with our intuition.

Where I am from in the United States, particularly Los Angeles, a city I called home for quite some time—it’s a rapid pace. There are so many expectancies, projected voices, technologies/communication technologies being spit at us from every angle that it’s difficult to not be plagued by the noise.

Leaning back as Singer suggests, from it, is how we become the spectator, not a willing participant in this falsehood of reality we create with mental chatter. We develop a relationship of trust within ourselves when we can rely on our objectivity. We can begin to understand who we really are, that is—which voice it is.

Today’s Wild Card pick is from Tosha Silver’s Change Me Prayers oracle deck:

INTUITION

Set an intention to transcend the noise of your mind by learning to be a spectator of it. We earn self-trust through the relationship we have with our inner voice, our intuition. We can begin to trust in a higher plan by trusting we are always being guided to that which serves us. Consider how you can give your self more love through self-care to keep your vibration elevated. Be willing to be outrageously open and release expectations. Trust that your relationship with your inner self is a reflection of your relationship with the divine. We are always being guided if we can silence the noise to listen.

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Tosha is author of Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead, a guide to living a life of surrender and trust by putting your faith in the divine’s greater plan. {She designed this deck that I often use to draw a mantra/prayer as part of my daily spiritual practice.}

                                                                         

It’s Not Goodbye, It’s Hello.  

It’s Not Goodbye, It’s Hello.  

A few months ago when my brother Patrick died, somewhere in the midst of the funeral haze, I drifted off by myself to collapse on a bed and sob. My eyelids lifted to watch my consoling cousin pull back the tear-drenched hair off of my face. I recall my faint, yet bitter voice emphatically saying to her, “You know, I could be standing in the most exotic, stunning place in the world right now and I’d see no beauty. I’d feel nothing.”

I meant that. Much of the declaration was because world travel has become an invigorating passion of mine. But, sadly, it’s because this is not my first rodeo of tragic death. I lost my oldest brother Aaron when I was a teenager. After a decade of soul-searching and finally feeling at a pinnacle, losing both of my brothers has been a bizarre actuality to wrap my head around.

To say this year was one of the most formative years of my life would be an understatement. Then again, it has been so transitional that I am not sure taking form is even the right description. As per usual with the ever-flowing tide of life, it has been accompanied by soaring highs, followed by one of the greatest lows. It was a year in which I left behind my California identity of the last decade to embark on a new story. I confronted changes occurring within me while adapting to those outside of me. It was a year where I went to the other side of the world to feel back in the world. An excursion to the magical island of Bah-lee completely changed and redirected my life. I had never felt more alive than traveling solo in such a foreign land, and I had never felt more dead shortly thereafter.

As days have gone by, each one feeling as though there’s a little more life inside of me, I reminisce back to what I said to my cousin that day. I recognize it as a reflection of my internal experience at that moment in time. My apathy towards the aesthetics of the external solely mirrored that I felt dead inside. My reality was a belief I created based off of the numb feeling that nothing could make me feel alive again. Of course with good ole time, this experience has shifted. Since the loss of Patrick, I’ve returned once again from traveling. My thoughts have centered around a prevalent theme that emerged — an embrace of transitions.

In retrospect, there are so many chapters in my life that were remarkable periods of transition. Yet, if each changing moment is one transition to the next, then isn’t everything a transition? Reminded by all chapters left to the past, one final page after another, it got me thinking about my perception of goodbye. As someone who has long struggled with goodbyes, I’ve come to discover why traveling has been healing for me. The temporal experiences that unfold, only to fade, have been a powerful teacher. It fascinates me, really, the incredible forces at work when I step into the unknown to allow the divine to intervene. In my experience it has been one of the greatest agents of change, accelerating rapid growth and bringing forth much clarity. The big picture, so to speak, becomes a lot clearer.

One of my favorite parts of traveling is always the people I meet and connect to along the way. It’s interesting, being the person that’s never liked goodbyes. There’s an inherent understanding when traveling that while I may meet others on the journey, there’s no guarantee for anything further. In fact, there’s more the likeliness we won’t see each other again than there is otherwise. The respect of the present moment and allowing it to be is the lesson. It is recognition of a willingness to embrace the new moment and the ability to gracefully let go of the last. The beautiful temporal qualities of life teach us that there’s no way to foresee that which is to stay or go. It’s a hard thing to master, letting go, especially when shocked or traumatized. The go-to of fight-or-flight is to clench with all one’s power. Yet, we fail to realize the giveaway of power when struggling to make something stay that is to end. Things forever continue to strip away in life. The more I’ve grown and the more goodbyes I’ve had to say — I’m learning to consider a new perspective. I’m learning that maybe it’s not goodbye, it’s hello.

It’s been a year of many goodbyes and many hellos. As my various grief becomes interwoven, all I can do is stand in it. Feel it. Face it. Loosen my grip, and let go.

Endings are hard, but as it is often practiced in yoga — the transition between each pose can be the most enlightening of all. It is the power in awareness of each transition. How do I respond to the changing moment? Am I present? Is my ego holding onto something that happened in the last that no longer serves me? Am I moving forward into the next with total embrace of the new? Can I trust that what is gone is as it should be? Can I be content with the plan that is out of my control? Can I trust myself to be okay? Can I have compassion for my grief along the way?

So, life is one transition after another. It is a transition from one moment into the next, a city or career to the next, a profound love, or from one dimension into the next.

It is challenging to accept both of my brothers’ fate and their transitions from birth to death in this lifetime. Still, I ponder my own transitions of grief and have learned something. In one moment I thought I could see no beauty in the world, that I was dead inside. A few months later I was on a gorgeous beach in Mexico, and I was feeling things; I was feeling a lot. As the lucid, turquoise water slipped between my ankles, and the warm wind danced on my skin, there I stood in my grief. And, even as much ache as I may still feel in my heart, I was able to look around and feel some peace that day. I could acknowledge gratitude for the new because I could see my progression. So, I was able to accept goodbye a tiny bit more, and this time I could say, hello.

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Tulum, Quintana Roo, México

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